“Nice Guys Finish Last. And They Get No Chicks.”
Nice Guys Finish Last
And They Don’t Get Chicks Either
by Pre$ton
"The ordinary man is passive. Against major events he is as helpless as against the elements. So far from endeavoring to influence the future, he simply lies down and lets things happen to him."
- George Orwell (1903-1950) Famous journalist, political writer, and novelist
"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man."
- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Pulitzer Prize Winner 1925
"Why are there so many Georges?"
- Pre$ton (birthdate unknown – he may be an angel) Once got 13 girl’s phone #’s in one day 2003
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"Stop being a wussy."
That is dating/pick-up expert David D’Angelo’s message to men all around the world. Women are sick of wussies. How do I know he said this? Because he is a genius. I’ve bought everything he has ever produced, and I’m not embarrassed to say it at all. The whole "why are you dieting when you’re so skinny already?" thing applies here. Plus I had temporary dreams of becoming a professional pick up artist at one point and time.
Money doesn’t seem to like wussies much either. It tends to not come around them too often. Most wussies I know are so broke they can’t even pay attention.
You’re not a wussy…are you?
My vitamin for your mind this week actually applies to you too ladies. If you’re in business that is. And it has nothing at all to do with the Venutian Arts although I actually have a lot I could say on that subject. We’ll save that for another life.
My message to you this week is simply this:
Stop being so dang nice.
Nice people are broke. Every time. And broke people can’t feed their children. I don’t call that nice. Modern culture often confuses "niceness" with "goodness" when in all actuality those two terms couldn’t be farther apart in meaning. I’ll be "good" as often as possible. I’ll be "nice" rarely.
Sound mean?
Consider that the common "nicety" is really no more than a counterfeit expression of kindness rooted in fear with the intent of making sure you like me so that my weak wussy ego doesn’t suffer. 9 times out of 10, "Nice" people are actually "manipulative" people. "Good" people tell it like it is with an ounce of grace. They could care less what people think. And I didn’t copy that out of a text book or any other thing for that matter. It came right out of me, and frankly I’m pretty impressed with it!
"I do not receive honor from men."
- Jesus
Good people are strong. Nice people are weak. Good people have power to help others. Nice people have only words to talk about helping others. Good people have true wisdom which manifests itself in a prosperous and meaningful life. Nice people have mere head knowledge which manifests itself in me making fun of you in my newsletters. : – )
Hey You
Stop Being So Nice
Toughen up. Stop allowing others to have their way with you all the time. They only do it because you let them. This is YOUR world. YOUR reality. Act like it!
Did you know that you are experiencing life right now exactly how you want to experience it? Why do you want things so difficult? What purpose is that serving for you subconsciously? Why do you believe the things you believe about life? Is it because your parents raised you that way?
It is time for you to start taking control of your life. No one is going to do this for you. Get angry for once. Shoot, I’m angry every darn day. I’m mad right now for crying out loud. I’m mad at everything that causes anyone to suffer in this life and I’m out to fix it. I’m doing my part. Are you? Or are you sitting around complaining about your life when it’s mostly your fault in the first place?
I honestly could write for a hundred pages right now. One day I will, and you’ll see it at Borders for $21.39. I like odd numbers.
Let me wrap up by cluing you in on a common social dynamic that you may not be aware of. Whenever you have two or more people in the same room or on the phone conversing or whatever, something very important is going on that you need to know. And that something is this:
Each person is trying to figure out who the leader is.
Did you know that? It’s true. And here is the interesting part – whoever believes the strongest that he is the leader, gets to be the leader. The person who believes in their own reality the strongest wins every time. Their reality becomes everyones reality. Well that person is rarely referred to as "nice."
And he or she is never ever a wussy.
Here’s the bottom line – you being a wussy is total bullcrap and everyone around you is sick of it. Including me. Stop it! Consider this mental surgery on your dome. The wussy has got to go. On the count of three I want you to get real ticked off, scream the following words – "WUSSY BE GONE!", picture a wussy spirit that looks like Michael Jackson moonwalking out of your body, and then punch yourself in the face. Ready? One, two, three – "WUSSY BE GONE!"
Feel better?
© 2009 R. Preston Ely (Don’t steal my stuff.)
all rights reserved
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November 9th, 2009 at 2:46 pm
Hello Preston,
I admire your wit & sense of humor mixed with a great deal of thought provoking information. It all is quite amusing and great information simultaneously.
And, yes you are absolutely right about the “nice” part. I really think it’s a character flaw of mine. I should pay heed to your words of wisdom because you obviously have already achieved “success” with your own unique personality and talent/skill set.
November 9th, 2009 at 3:07 pm
Hey Preston,
Glad to meet you the other night at the float bar! Had to fly back east today so missed your delivery today. Cheers, JB
November 9th, 2009 at 3:15 pm
Hey Preston,
Good insight. Love it.
November 9th, 2009 at 4:31 pm
Story of my life, man
It is SO EXTREMELY difficult to change it if you are programmed to be nice like almost everyone on this planet. And then how are you gonna stay balanced and not become a selfish SOB that doesn’t really care about anyone and steps over people to get what he wants?
November 9th, 2009 at 4:34 pm
so true Preston lol It makes me laugh to think about this wussy stuff. I bought David D’s program way back when, Back when I was 19 and let me tell you something women love strong men, period. Eban aka David Deanglo changed my life! Now that Im married, I know when Im strong and lil bit cocky my wife eats it up with a spoon. I have a friend who is a total nice guy, and I tell him stop being his female “friends” emotional tampon and grow a pair. But he keeps on listening to their problems, reassuring them ect ect and He sits there and wonders why his life sucks and why he doesnt have a girlfriend. Once you get it, you will get it.
Thanks a lot Preston for all that you do.
November 9th, 2009 at 5:44 pm
Yo Preston, that had me rollin’ man! So so true though. Alot of people don’t want to come off as assholes, which may be a reason they are passive like that. However, you are absolutely correct my dude. It’s called bitchassness! Lol
GET MAD YO! Be assertive people… Let it be KNOWN!
But then again, some people are not built like that though, ya dig.
Still… good information P.
I like ya style sun!
You are a GIVER! I really really love that about you man. Keep it comin’
AC
November 9th, 2009 at 6:55 pm
Hey Preston, Keep on teachin’. But consider this. The real”alpha” of either sex is the one who can be successful while being both good and nice.
Now, furthering (I hope) your thoughts, anyone can be nice but to be good one needs to have self confidence. Get it wherever you can. I’ve always had a measure of it but really got a mega shot when I started a martial arts based self defense program. Man what a difference. Male or female can get real and quick benefit from a program like this. It works for most any age person. I know cause I was 64 when I started.
Peace and Prosperity,
November 9th, 2009 at 7:06 pm
I didn’t know Angels picked up chicks!
November 9th, 2009 at 7:34 pm
Hey Preston,
You are wise beyond your years. I’m curious, is this your observation of others, or is it also from personal experience? From the time I was in preschool I can remember being taught to never step on anyone’s toes, never rock the boat, don’t make my teacher mad, don’t talk out of turn, and for heaven’s sake, don’t ever get a “checkmark” in self-control on my report card. Before long, this kind of self control was ingrained in my mind, in my beliefs about myself, (actually my DISbeliefs about myself).
Well, now I’m in my fifties. I have spent thousands of dollars on real estate coaching and courses. However, all of the knowledge in the world will not help you, if in your mind you really don’t believe you can be successful, or if you don’t believe you can be a leader. You will always be hesitant in your approach to others.
Yes, I finally had to get mad at myself and realize that I am the only one who can change my situation. Even though I haven’t done my first R.E. deal yet, I’m talking to people now and I KNOW my first deal is just around the corner!
Thanks Preston
November 9th, 2009 at 7:52 pm
Preston,
I know you are working on your music career right now, but definitely think writing is your gift as well. I love reading what you have to say and you always inspire the heck out of me. Not only are you wise beyond your years but you have a way of breaking it down that cuts to core. I so appreciate you and the influence you’ve had on my life! It’s taken me awhile but I finally feel like I’m getting it, and a lot of that is thanks to you!
From a former “nice” girl
November 9th, 2009 at 8:03 pm
YOU TALKING TO ME?? I SAID ARE YOU TALKING TO ME?? I THOUGHT SO…………. TRUST ME, YOU DON’T WANT NONE OF THIS!!!!!!!!!! RIP MR. NICE GUY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
November 9th, 2009 at 10:28 pm
Bangin’ post bro!!!
November 10th, 2009 at 12:42 am
Thank you Preston, I needed that and yes I do feel better! Be blessed!
November 10th, 2009 at 2:17 am
Preston,
I couldn’t have said it better myself and you are right on. I would probably charge $21.99 for a book about all this info and this still is a great deal. I vote sending all the wussies to the next UFC fight and give them a great seat, right in the middle of the fighters and let the good people keep score.
November 10th, 2009 at 2:23 am
Hi Preston,
I’m going to go back and read this blogs a few times. I think you’re right about me! It reminds me that I need to get the book you’ve recommended on this subject. I think it’s called No More Christian Nice Guy. I’ve read a lot of the books you recommend but not this one…yet.
I really appreciate the fact that you are my brother in the Lord Jesus Christ. All of your testimonies for Him have been awesome! And I can see that you have a lot of integrity, which makes your advice reliable.
Thank you so much for all your encouragement and excellent content! Keep pushing me to do my first deal. I will not give up!
November 10th, 2009 at 2:14 pm
This post is right on Preston. You can be a good person and not so nice at the same time. I sometimes have a problem with being too nice. But yet, I don’t think I’m perceived as too nice, rather quite the opposite. I haven’t quite figured that one out yet.
November 10th, 2009 at 4:46 pm
Preston, I agree with about 98% of what you said (I like even numbers). I have known several wussy individuals who have never really achieved much in their lives, but then, that doesn’t count for the high number or totally rude (but good) people who get nowhere either.
I am a good person (not to compare myself to the Savior) but it’s what I choose to be, and what I spend a great deal-of-time contemplating on each day of my life. However, I am also a nice person. I am nice, because I like to be. I find that it puts others at ease quicker, and in some cases, it lets others know that I am not their nemesis. Additionally, I actually enjoy myself more when I am nice. Though I am not perfect, I don’t consider myself a manipulator… I’m too straight-forward for that.
A few years ago, I attended a PSI Seminar (Personal Success Institute – sort of a pre-cursor program to “The Secret” genre etc…) and our moderator, based on several questions, had separated us into groups. When he got to our group, he said we were the “nice, do-gooders” group. He said we were “nice” because we wanted to be liked and loved. He really burned me at that moment. To assume that someone is only ‘nice’ because they want something is to undermine the godliness that lies in each of our nature’s. Our Father in Heaven is the epitome of ‘niceness’ and goodness, and I know He isn’t trying to manipulate anyone, as that would interfere with our Free Agency.
Uhmmm, “Have a nice day!”
November 12th, 2009 at 4:30 pm
Hey Preston
You are so right brotha, I can’t even begin to tell you. I like the way you worded it because that breaks it down to the most simplist of minds. I happen to be the “good” type, myself, and I don’t take crap from no one! This is my world…you’re not the boss of me!
Keep up the good work brotha, we’ll get them one at a time.
Tim/Tx
December 22nd, 2009 at 10:50 pm
I really like your writing style, its not generic and extremly long and tedious like a lot of blog posts I read, you get to the point and I really enjoy reading your articles! Oh, and merry Christmas!
January 14th, 2010 at 5:03 pm
Hi Preston
I have been following you ever since I lost my job in 2008.You have been very free with sharing your wealth of information.I have learned a lot from you,I explain to you that I had no income for the last 2yrs.Well the reason that I haven’t bought you book is that I had no money.Well I just recently got a hold of a little money and I was trying to save it hoping that I can find out what Freedom Soft has to offer.Hoping that it’s will take me to were i can start doing deals.I have been getting email’s from everybody that coming out with this auto system and I’m trying to hold out tell I see what all yours do.I never done a deal and I need something that’s going to help me with Buyer and seller leads so that I can start getting paid.I want to make this my year I start doing deals I have been doing without for so long.I hope and I do pray everyday that it something that I can afford and that I can start making deals as soon a possible.I can’t wait I hope that it has the data base and you have a support system for people like me to help along the way.Are you going to help found the deals or have a proof of funding letters.I’m ready to make a change in me and my family life.I believe that God allow me to go through this because he had his time pick for me when he wanted to bless me.God let me no that this is my season I wasn’t ready then but I am now lord said he will give you the desire of your heart and he no that i have a desire to become a real estate investor.I look at how for 2yrs I couldn’t buy a pair of socks but I didn’t complain I just thank God for blessing me with what i had and now he’s getting ready to bless me with what i want he a good God.Through all I was still and now given God the glory.For 2yr I have been going through but through it all I still give God the glory and the praise.It my testimony that if you have faith in God he can take you through anything with out him i wouldn’t have made it and i no that.Please reply and I will see you at the top.Your Girl Rochelle
January 21st, 2010 at 9:11 am
Hey Preston….” See It…Dream It….Believe It….You WILL Achieve It..”,,,cheers to Success.
” See You @ The Top ”
Brent Mann
Florida
January 21st, 2010 at 9:13 am
Take The Red Pill man…..
February 14th, 2010 at 5:43 pm
Pre$ton!
I wait breathlessly for your next blog! You simultaneously educate and amuse. I feel your angelic spirit, ADHD though it may be. I copied this article, (all copywrites included of course) and am giving it to a friend for Valentine’s Day.
Can’t wait to meet you some day. Here’s to FREEDOM and balance.
February 15th, 2010 at 12:37 am
Greetings from Ireland. Does anyone have any advice on staying out of the “Friend Zone” with girls? Honestly I’m sick of girls telling me they “just want to be friends.”
February 22nd, 2010 at 11:25 am
Great post thanks, all the best. I really enjoy reading this blog, it has a great position on my favourites bar!