Nice Guys Finish Last
And They Don’t Get Chicks Either

by Pre$ton

"The ordinary man is passive.  Against major events he is as helpless as against the elements.  So far from endeavoring to influence the future, he simply lies down and lets things happen to him."

-    George Orwell (1903-1950) Famous journalist, political writer, and novelist
 

"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man."

 - George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Pulitzer Prize Winner 1925
 

"Why are there so many Georges?"

 - Pre$ton (birthdate unknown – he may be an angel) Once got 13 girl’s phone #’s in one day 2003

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"Stop being a wussy."

That is dating/pick-up expert David D’Angelo’s message to men all around the world.  Women are sick of wussies.  How do I know he said this?  Because he is a genius.  I’ve bought everything he has ever produced, and I’m not embarrassed to say it at all.  The whole "why are you dieting when you’re so skinny already?" thing applies here.  Plus I had temporary dreams of becoming a professional pick up artist at one point and time. 

Money doesn’t seem to like wussies much either.  It tends to not come around them too often.  Most wussies I know are so broke they can’t even pay attention.

You’re not a wussy…are you?

My vitamin for your mind this week actually applies to you too ladies.  If you’re in business that is.  And it has nothing at all to do with the Venutian Arts although I actually have a lot I could say on that subject.  We’ll save that for another life.

My message to you this week is simply this:

Stop being so dang nice.

Nice people are broke.  Every time.  And broke people can’t feed their children.  I don’t call that nice.  Modern culture often confuses "niceness" with "goodness" when in all actuality those two terms couldn’t be farther apart in meaning.  I’ll be "good" as often as possible.  I’ll be "nice" rarely. 

Sound mean?

Consider that the common "nicety" is really no more than a counterfeit expression of kindness rooted in fear with the intent of making sure you like me so that my weak wussy ego doesn’t suffer.  9 times out of 10, "Nice" people are actually "manipulative" people.  "Good" people tell it like it is with an ounce of grace.  They could care less what people think.  And I didn’t copy that out of a text book or any other thing for that matter.  It came right out of me, and frankly I’m pretty impressed with it!

"I do not receive honor from men."

 - Jesus

Good people are strong.  Nice people are weak.  Good people have power to help others.  Nice people have only words to talk about helping others.  Good people have true wisdom which manifests itself in a prosperous and meaningful life.  Nice people have mere head knowledge which manifests itself in me making fun of you in my newsletters.  : – )

Hey You
Stop Being So Nice 

Toughen up.  Stop allowing others to have their way with you all the time.  They only do it because you let them.  This is YOUR world.  YOUR reality.  Act like it!

Did you know that you are experiencing life right now exactly how you want to experience it?  Why do you want things so difficult?  What purpose is that serving for you subconsciously?  Why do you believe the things you believe about life?  Is it because your parents raised you that way? 

It is time for you to start taking control of your life.  No one is going to do this for you.  Get angry for once.  Shoot, I’m angry every darn day.  I’m mad right now for crying out loud.  I’m mad at everything that causes anyone to suffer in this life and I’m out to fix it.  I’m doing my part.  Are you?  Or are you sitting around complaining about your life when it’s mostly your fault in the first place?

I honestly could write for a hundred pages right now.  One day I will, and you’ll see it at Borders for $21.39.  I like odd numbers.

Let me wrap up by cluing you in on a common social dynamic that you may not be aware of.  Whenever you have two or more people in the same room or on the phone conversing or whatever, something very important is going on that you need to know.  And that something is this: 

Each person is trying to figure out who the leader is.

Did you know that?  It’s true.  And here is the interesting part – whoever believes the strongest that he is the leader, gets to be the leader.  The person who believes in their own reality the strongest wins every time.  Their reality becomes everyones reality.  Well that person is rarely referred to as "nice." 

And he or she is never ever a wussy.

Here’s the bottom line – you being a wussy is total bullcrap and everyone around you is sick of it.  Including me.  Stop it!  Consider this mental surgery on your dome.  The wussy has got to go.  On the count of three I want you to get real ticked off, scream the following words – "WUSSY BE GONE!", picture a wussy spirit that looks like Michael Jackson moonwalking out of your body, and then punch yourself in the face.  Ready?  One, two, three – "WUSSY BE GONE!"

Feel better? 

© 2009  R. Preston Ely  (Don’t steal my stuff.)
all rights reserved

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"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." [emphasis mine]

-    Marianne Williamson, American Author, Lecturer, And New Age Weirdo (but this is still a really cool quote)

We are all at least vaguely familiar with Martin Seligman’s famous 1965 experiment with the dogs and the learned helplessness thing.

Long story short, he put some doggies in a room and shocked the crap out of em but provided no means of escape.  I’m not sure where PITA was on this one.  Probably annoying a Republican somewhere.

They kept trying to escape, but they eventually learned that it was useless.

After a certain amount of time, Martin "Puppy Punisher" Seligman opened up a door so as to provide a means of escape for the poor pups.

And then he zapped them again.

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None of them tried to escape.  Though the deliverance from their pain was staring them right in the face…they simply did not believe.  They had learned that they were helpless, so they didn’t even try.

Now, the fact that this is analogous to the spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial state of the average human being in this world is fascinating enough in and of itself.  But it’s not nearly as fascinating as this next little known fact about the experiment.

It’s funny because when you read about it it’s almost like an afterthought, when in my opinion it is the most profound aspect of the entire thing.

Listen carefully here.  Those of you who are enlightened will get the profundity of this immediately, and the hairs will stand up on the back of your neck:

With all the poor little helpless puppies huddled in the middle of the room, trembling, trapped, and scared to move, they sent a healthy puppy in through the open door who ran around the other puppies a little (probably trying to play with them and wondering what their problem was) and then ran right back out the open door…

And a couple of the dogs who had previously been conditioned to stay put, followed his lead and ran out right behind him.

Do I even need to say anything more?

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Let’s go back to Marianne’s quote.

 "As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

You need to become whole, and strong, and courageous because other puppies need your strength, pal.  This world is filled with hurting puppies (people) who need hope desperately.  They are dying for something to believe in.  Aching for proof that there is something more than what they have previously experienced.  Yearning for freedom.

Your mere presence in their lives is proof that they can do it too.  NOTHING motivates, teaches, and inspires like a good example.

It’s been said that a good example is the ONLY viable means of teaching.

You have two choices:

1.    Be proof to the world that life does indeed suck as bad as they always feared it does, and therefore be a negative vibration in the sea of humanity.

Or

2.    Be proof that the the world’s wildest dreams are indeed possible, therefore setting the captives free.

There is nothing in between.  You are either impressing people positively or negatively.  You are helping or hurting.  You are going backwards or forwards.  You are going to heaven or you are going to hell.

TAKE YOUR PICK.

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You know … you never really know when inspiration
is going to strike.  It just struck me on the toilet at
Starbucks.  No lie.  As I was sitting there meditating
on life (which I pretty much do non-stop), I realized
something very important ….

You were born to be great.

Think about that for a second.  Don’t just be like,
"duh."  I’ll repeat it for you.

You were born to be great.

Everyone was.  You were.  I was.  Your mom was.
Me and your mom were.  Everyone.

The key to you being as great as the king of Saudi
Arabia is this …

Find out who you are.

"A man’s gift makes room for him, and brings him
before great men.

 - Proverbs 18:16

You were brought into this world with special inborn
gifts/talents that God would like for you to discover
and use. 

And he would like for you to do this for several
reasons …

1.  the world needs them
2.  operating within your gifts will bring you joy
3.  it will provide you the passion necessary to bring
you success and thereby provide for your family and
other people
4.  so Lady Ga Ga will stop it

You were born to be great.

If everyone on earth would just do this one thing, we
would be like a bajillion steps closer to utopia if utopia
was even possible (which it’s not unfortunately). 

You discover your gifts by proactively trying different
things and paying attention to the feedback that life
gives you.

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